You know how you ‘know’ how you probably should feel, or be, or do, but you feel otherwise?
Yeah, that’s where I am.
It’s not defiance. I don’t feel ‘choice’, it’s just how it is in this moment.
I understand feelings will shift, my attitude will likely change and I won’t have need of where I am – but when I’m here, I’m here.
And I’m angry that I have to manage the multitude in my head telling me why I shouldn’t be where I am emotionally, and then the litany of all I’ve ever screwed up, and opportunities I’ve missed – how, of course my life is not where I want it to be – look who I am.
What a shithead, right?!
I mean, if I could fire that jerk, and demand restitution for all it’s cost me – I’d bottle that and sell it – because I know I am not alone.
Not being alone in this miasma doesn’t have a ‘camaraderie’ feeling to it though. It’s not bested through others’ compassion, but only through self-compassion, and that is not currently in my skill set.
The best pharmacological offerings have not helped – and therapy does take the edge off – but this is a solo path, even though I desperately want company.
“The best way out is through,” as I have heard (and my inner rampaging self says to go screw yourself with your hollow platitudes).
And, yes, I know I’m arguing with myself, but it’s also all the therapists and self-help books that have not been the miracle cure I had hoped for.
Other wisdom reminds me that this is an ‘inside job’, and all I can think is that it would have been better to hire an expert.
“But you are an expert! You are the only expert on you!,” offers my cheery ‘friend’, who now has a black eye…
So, what am I going to do?
I’m going to go out and till the soil in the garden, because if I don’t do it, it won’t get done.
Also, speaking directly to my inner three-nager: I love you. I accept you. You matter to me, and it’s important to me that you get what you need.
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